The thing is, even if she’s interesting, she most likely wrote a whole bunch of clichés in her profile: “I’m nice, smart, kind, warm, funny, honest and family-oriented. I’m looking for my best friend, lover and partner in crime for a lifetime of love and laughter.” (Scary how easy it is to approximate the typical online dating profile, isn’t it? Even a specific response like “I noticed you enjoy biking. For example, if you’re writing to the foot model, you might say: Let’s drink to our fashion careers, Evan Sure, it’s a little goofy, but people actually respond to this stuff. Because it’s different, it’s audacious and, in a strange way, it’s kind of smart. It’s not an idle compliment or a generic, “Ooh, look what we have in common” line. Start your comment in the subject heading of the email, like this… Talk to you soon, Evan If these kinds of emails don’t work for you, no problem. Just keep in mind that the confidence it takes to write an email like that is compelling.It’s a joke and, as we all know, people like people who make them laugh. I can fix your computer, landscape your backyard and probably even hotwire your car, but, for some reason, Ti Vo programming seems to elude me as well. Playing it safe is fine, but if an attractive person has dozens, if not hundreds, of options, you need to shake things up a little bit to break through the clutter. Interesting piece, which I’ll have to parse at length when I have the time…but it leads me to throw out a theory I’ve been kicking around.
So how do you cobble together something from a pile of nothing? If not, the person you’re contacting probably has 10 emails just like yours sitting on the computer screen. Even though you’re writing to someone out of the blue, do so with the belief that this person would be lucky to have you. Your profile ultimately does the selling; your email just has to pique their interest.Phrases like this don't help you stand out and can be BORING to read after having seen them so many times.The good thing is, if you write a unique profile you'll immediately set yourself apart from others on the site and gain an advantage. We'll get into more detail about how to do this in the sections below.Focus on the less superficial stuff, not how tall or suave or sexy you want your prospect to be.Then you need to combine that thought with something about who you are. If that advice doesn’t work and you’re still drawing a complete blank, you have three choices: Some sites automatically use the first few words of your essay to generate your tagline. This tagline isn’t horrible, and it won’t injure anyone, but that tagline won’t excite anyone either.By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky In addition to displaying a screen name, many online-dating sites allow you to display a phrase, called a tagline.