"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. I thought I was an emotionally stable human being before this — that theory has since been challenged. Praying for wisdom and grace for us all as we walk this out. This year has been my initiation into all things online dating, and let’s just say that the tears factor has been exponential.Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?
Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner.If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go." —Steve M."Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date.Her take: “I went out with a guy I met online who seemed really sweet and charming. A few days later, he texts me to say that he isn't looking for a girlfriend—just casual sex.I felt cheated and hurt.” -Andrea C., 31Expert take: Even if a guy doesn’t say straight out in his profile that he’s only looking for hook-ups, some will offer hints.Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B."Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head.